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Gossiping Out of Envy?


(Proverbs 26:20) “Without wood, the fire goes out. Without a gossip, contention stops.”

(James 3:16) “For wherever jealousy and rivalry exist, there is disorder and every kind of evil.”

(Philippians 4:8) “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is fair, whatever is pure, whatever is acceptable, whatever is commendable, if there is anything of excellence and if there is anything praiseworthy—keep thinking about these things.”

(Philippians 2:3) “Do not act out of selfish ambition or conceit, but with humility think of others as being better than yourselves.”


Gossip in any form is poison both for the one that spreads it and for the one that receives it.  It is wood for the fire of hatred, prejudice, rejection, insults, and destruction in any church or community.  Anything spoken behind someone’s back, which cannot be repeated in front of them is considered gossip.  It can be born from a heart of envy and jealousy, especially towards those in authority.

When I was a leader at the church, training for ministry work, at times, members would come with complaints about the pastor, the ministry, the apostle, and other leaders.  Complaints about how, according to them, the church funds were being misused, about people in the worship team that should not be there, about the excessive strictness of some of the leaders, and even about the way some members prayed, dressed or the sin they were hiding.  

From the very beginning, I chose to never blindly agree with these complaints, but rather, to show my support for those criticized, by addressing the fact that the pastor was aware of all situations and knew what he was doing.  When the Pastor was criticized, I would make it clear that God was the one truly in control and allowed decisions to be made by the pastor that seemed unfair.  I could never bring myself to speak against anyone else as I had personally suffered from insults and gossip behind my back.  This is one of the prices to pay when you are in leadership and are used by God while others watch with jealousy.

Some people just can’t stand it when others prosper or get public recognition. Their only way to handle your success is to complain about you to others behind your back. These same individuals also don’t have the courage to confront you. This is a common strategy for couples that are about to break up.  They will first start to gossip about their partner with everyone in order to raise supporters for their case.   That is why it is so important to have both the accuser and the accused face to face whenever gossip is spreading, especially when dealing with couples.

A simple solution is to think of things that are good, fair, and commendable about everyone.  To consider them better than yourself, and more deserving of honor than you in every way.  When you do this, you will first see if you are humble enough to do it, and you will definitely attract only good and helpful people in your life by being someone that drives away contention.



(“Contention is usually about control. A contentious person can never lead because he has never learned to follow.” – Bob Gass)




• Heavenly Father, You are the King eternal, immortal and invisible.
• We admit that we need Your wisdom today.
• Forgive us for having spread gossip and complaints against anyone. Forgive us for having let ourselves be used by Satan to bring contention and strife in our church or family.
• Help us to be compassionate towards others and trust that You are in control of every situation.
• Help us to think of whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is fair, whatever is pure, whatever is acceptable, whatever is commendable, whatever is of excellence and praiseworthy.
• We bind right now every spirit of jealousy, envy, and strife trying to control us.
• Teach us how to be humble and speak of others as better than ourselves.

• We ask in Jesus’ Mighty name. Amen

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