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Empty Nest Syndrome

 

(Ruth 1:20-21) “But Naomi replied, ‘Don’t call me ‘Naomi’! Call me ‘Mara’! That’s because the Almighty has dealt bitterly with me. I left here full, but the LORD brought me back empty. So why call me ‘Naomi’? After all, the LORD is against me, and the Almighty has broken me.’”

(Psalms 92:12-15) “The righteous will flourish like palm trees; they will grow like a cedar in Lebanon. Planted in the LORD’s Temple, they will flourish in the courtyard of our God. They will still bear fruit even in old age; they will be luxuriant and green. They will proclaim: ‘The LORD is upright; my rock, in whom there is no injustice.’”

 

 

 

The empty nest Syndrome is a very real thing that parents experience once their children leave their homes and go off to college, move for a career to another city, or get married. Sure, nowadays, many parents wish they had that syndrome as children seem to cling to their parents well past their 30s and even 40s. What these adults suffer from is a reverse “Empty Nest Syndrome”, where their identity, faith, emotions, and future are still linked to their children. This is not healthy for the adults nor the parents in the long run.

No matter who you are, parent or child, you are much more than the role you are currently playing. You need to build your life around your person and not your responsibilities, otherwise, when that role is over, you will feel empty and worthless. Christ does not love you for what you do, but for who you are…His Creation.

If you have a mother’s heart, you will always treat others as your children. You will have the same joy of making that special dish for anyone’s child as you had for your own. If you’ve been a Father, you will always give wisdom and council to whoever comes to you with a question.

If anyone had a reason for the “Empty nest Syndrome” it’s Naomi in the book of Ruth. She left her hometown with a husband and two sons and returned only with a daughter-in-law. He husband and children died, and the other daughter-in-law abandoned her. That is why she wanted to change her name from “Naomi” which means “My Joy”, to “Mara” which means “Bitterness”.

By focusing only on what you can do, you are building yourself up for failure and depression for when you can no longer bring to the table what you used to. Let’s say you are the financial provider for the family, what will happen when you lose your job? If you are the spiritual guide for your family or a pastor for a flock, what will you do when you don’t have a flock or your family is no longer under your spiritual guidance?

People will come and go, but Christ’s calling upon your life will always stand. I suggest you focus a little more on that calling.

 

 

Don’t limit your identity or self-worth entirely on your spouse, your children, your job, your house or even your education, as it could all vanish tomorrow.

 

 


Prayers

• Heavenly Father, It is Your mercies that we are not consumed. Your mercies are new every morning. The Lord who crowns me with loving kindness and tender mercies.
• Thank you, Father, for giving us purpose and using us even in our old age.
• Thank You, that everyone is valuable to You and a powerful weapon in Your hands.
• Forgive us for simply finding our value in the things we can do, or what others think of us.
• We ask that You will fill the void in our lives due to the changes we have faced.
• We declare that we will grow like a cedar in Lebanon and we will flourish like palm trees.
• We declare that we will be planted in the LORD’s Temple, and we will flourish in the courtyard of our God.
• We proclaim: ‘The LORD is upright; my rock, in whom there is no injustice.

• We ask in Jesus’ Mighty name. Amen

3 Comments

  1. Andrei Crasto
    8 July 2023 @ 21:03

    Amazing

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  2. Andrei Crasto
    8 July 2023 @ 21:03

    Superb

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  3. Doris
    11 July 2023 @ 10:54

    Wow.. very powerful.

    Reply

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