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Married An Unbeliever?


(2 Timoythy 2:13) “If we are not faithful, he will still be faithful. Christ cannot deny who he is.”

(Amos 3:3) “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”

(Jeremiah 31:3-4) “The LORD appeared to Israel from far away and said, “I’ve loved you with an everlasting love, therefore I’ve drawn you with gracious love. I’ll again build you, and you will be rebuilt, Virgin Israel! You will again take up your tambourines and go out to dance with those who are filled with joy.”

(2 Corinthians 6:14) “Stop becoming unevenly yoked with unbelievers. What partnership can righteousness have with lawlessness? What fellowship can light have with darkness?”


The modern church is full of married individuals that attend without their spouses. This normally affects their relationships, as the priorities of both spouses in life are clearly different. While one spouse keeps Sundays for eating out, the beach, and socializing, the other, desires to spend time in the house of worship with other believers.

Their children normally don’t grow up with Christian values or faith at all unless the dominating partner is a believer. Normally, the mother has more of an influence to steer the children toward her belief system. Divorce is rampant within the church, and being unequally yoked is one of the main reasons.

This is why Christ clearly instructs us not to be unequally yoked in every area of our lives, especially regarding marriage. We are light and anyone without Christ, according to the Bible, is darkness. It is already complicated enough when both partners have the same goals and vision, imagine now if they both have contradicting faiths, or if one is an atheist?

Marriage is not a sin, and marrying an unbeliever or someone from another faith is also not a sin. God blesses every marriage, if not, their children would be considered a product of sin. However, we are directly heading towards trouble by making this choice. Missionary dating does not work as you will probably give into iniquity before they submit to Christ for salvation.

Most of us marry based on feelings of love and convenience. As time passes by, those feeling change, and our willingness to compromise diminishes. Your desire for righteousness will only increase, as life and aging have a tendency to make us more aware of the afterlife. If you have ever known Christ, He will eventually catch up with you, as He cannot deny who He is nor His love for you. He will be faithful to your commitment to follow Him, even if you are not. He will try till your dying day to make you return to your first love (Him).

But there is hope. God promises to rescue us and restore us back to Him from any covenant we have made with unbelievers as long as we repent. When we admit we made a mistake, ignored our pastor’s advice and believed we could function without God, He will start to change hearts. Continue to pray and ask for your spouse and your children to get transported from the darkness into the light.



I have personally witnessed both the unbelieving family turn to Christ and also the lonely church member continue suffering torn between trying to please God or his/her unbelieving spouse.




• Heavenly Father, You are the King of peace, Our peace, the Prince of peace.
• Thank You for loving us with an everlasting love and for Your faithfulness to the new covenant.
• Thank You, Jesus, that You will never leave us nor forsake us, even if we turn our backs on You.
• Forgive us for having ignored Your warnings through the Word, our pastors, and leaders regarding making a covenant with unbelievers.
• We ask that you intervene in our lives and help us to continue trusting that You can change our situation.
• Please touch the hearts of our family that do not know You.
• We declare that You will start to rebuild us and that we will once again be able to rejoice and dance to Your praises.

• We ask in Jesus’ Mighty name. Amen

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